Mommy GUILT, YOU, & BOUNDARIES
As Moms we feel like as soon as we get the title MOM, we immediately feel like we have to come last, we have to stay up all night doing laundry, we never should have time alone...
Not sure why we feel like doing these things makes us a better mom because it doesn't at all!
Your kids could care less that you stayed up all night, or that you didn't eat because you fed everyone in your family first and were just to exhausted after you fed everyone else and cleaning up to feed yourself, they do not care that you have no alone time.
Being a Mom does not mean we stop taking care of ourselves. What it should mean is we take care of ourselves more because we have these littles looking at everything we do and we want to be able to grow old and play with them outside and see them grow. Ps that takes you feeling good and taking care of yourself mentally and physically NOW!
We have to Overcome mommy guilt.
Turn the thought about your mommy guilt around- "my kid is going to be so upset and have a bad day if I take a 20 min walk by myself" Is this true NO your child is not going to have a bad day if they do get upset it will be over and they will forget about it very quickly.
STOP- comparing your life to another momma in your circle or on social media- all you see is your behind the scenes to their highlight reel!
At night before you go to sleep think of all the positives and joy your kids had throughout the day, this will show you that any mom guilt you have of them feeling bad about your working on you isn't comparable to the fun they had during the day.
Distance yourself from others that make you feel guilty or have a talk with them and let them know you will not stand for them criticizing you anymore.
PUTTING YOURSELF FIRST
Do the hard things for YOU first thing in the AM-
Remember what gets you excited and passionate about life and make it a priority. Who is the woman you wish to become and do the tasks she would do day in and day out!
I was just on a plane for my anniversary trip, and they said put your oxygen mask on yourself FIRST so you can help others, it reminded me of being a mom putting ourselves last, how can we save, help, take care of, ANYONE if we do not take care of ourselves first! You are of no benefit to your kids or your spouse if you are not healthy, happy, confident and you are just burnt out and overwhelmed. What happens then is we start to resent our spouse and kids for not allowing us to take care of ourselves and no mom wants to get to that point.
Have a community of Women that can help you, watch each other's kids while you work out, walk..., When we take care of ourselves and ask for help, we are teaching our children to do the same.
You have non-negotiables in life laundry, dishes, house cleaning... Do we always want to do these no but we do them anyways, we have to get ourselves and our health to be a nonnegotiable to be more important than the laundry because time goes fast and we are getting older, you are running out of time to take care of you and before you know it you will be 60 looking back wishing you were in better health mentally and physically SO THIS IS YOUR WAKEUP CALL TIME IS SHORT BE HAPPY AND HEALTHY FEEL GOOD IN YOUR SKIN!
THIS BOOK GOING BEYOND MOM MIGHT BE A GOOD READ FOR YOU
SETTING BOUNDARIES/TIME BLOCKING
Time -Prioritizing
Do this for you and your family it will help organize tasks and your life to help everyone be more joyful and productive throughout the day.
All of these things will take time but you have to PUT YOU FIRST IF YOU WANT TO BE THE BEST MOM AND WIFE YOU CAN BE!
Talk soon!
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